I never thought I’d be able to know all the characters so intimately through just the warped mind of Sally. But even though she becomes increasingly unstable, she’s actually still very intelligent, thoughtful, and observant. I got a good sense of each and every character, all told through the mind of one Sally Islip. The book was really beautifully written and excellently crafted and put together by Cohen. And it is written in such a way that you have to know what Sally will do next. Being passive-aggressive is way worse than being outwardly aggressive. If the other woman is part of your social circle, you can mess with her mind and feelings by hurting her with your passive-aggressive words and actions. She may act like she doesn’t care for a while, but it would bother her. 15. Assemble your squad Could he be sending flirty texts to another woman? Or secretly swiping on Tinder? Or even have a hidden criminal past? Or, the worst fear - could he be cheating? Sally has a problem and her therapist thinks that "journaling" about is will help. Her problem is that after five years, Clive has ended their affair. He wants to give his marriage and family another try. But, Sally can't let it go. It didn't matter that her affair overlapped her relationship with Daniel, or that Clive was a married man with children. He left her, deserted her, and she needed resolution. She couldn't be the only one feeling this pain. So, Sally begins to ingratiate herself into Clive's family with things like going to his son's place of employment, having lunch with his wife and daughter, and using Facebook. Will Sally resolve her feelings before hurting others? What happened to Daniel? What will be the resolution to the stalking? Come read Sally's journal and find out. You don’t have to use her full name; people who know her may still know the woman you're referring to. Make an Ad telling everyone about the mistress seeing a man she knew was married and breaking up a happy family. Don’t forget to mention what relationship she had with your husband, for example, if she was his co-worker. 17. Make a massive statement

Use your kids to your advantage, post some photos and videos of your kids playing with your husband, then tag him so she can have a clear view of how happy and blessed your family is. 6. Show her that you’re still standing If you’re usually very active on social media, don’t stop. Instead, post photos and write-ups that amplify your best moments with your husband. This way, she’d see that you’re way above the little fling she had with your husband. 7. Post photos of you and your husband There are tales of hurt women who went on Facebook and posted an open letter to their husband s mistress. Most of these letters are in-depth, sarcastic, and detailed and will expose what transpired between their husband and the woman in question.

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As I read the journal I was transported to many conversations with friends over the years, the need to go over every word said, every look interpreted etc. etc. From the newly dating to the happily married, trust issues can creep up on anyone. With cheating cases soaring over 40% in the last two decades, it's natural to have your doubts. Stay on the lighter path, plan things that are legal yet satisfying to you, and hurtful to your husband s mistress. Remember, your motive is to hurt his mistress emotionally and not physically, so whatever you do, don’t get caught breaking the law. 2. Have a heart to heart with your husband

It is frightening to see a normally clever and intelligent woman loose her grip on reality. It leaves you wondering if you would react in the same way if you were in her position. Would you lose your grip on reality like Sally does or are you stronger? The mind is a precarious thing and sometimes our actions astonish us. It’s one method of getting closure for yourself; you could express all your angry feelings in the letter to his mistress. This would make her understand the gravity of what she has done. Don’t forget to tag her and all her mutual friends. 21. If she was your friend, she’s dead to you Written in journal form (first-person) this was difficult to get into at first because since it's from Sally's point of view and Sally is literally going insane and you can't help but want to slap some sense into her it's a bit rough going at first. At least it was for me. I received this book through the Goodreads First Reads program. It's written in the form of a diary, written by Sally, who has just been dumped by her lover of 5 years, Clive. Clive has decided to concentrate on his marriage with Susan, and Sally is devastated.Tamar Cohen's debut novel is well worth the read, I will miss the freshness of the writing. This isn't fatal attraction, it is far more subtle and clever than that was. I didn't expect to enjoy this book as much as I have. Her use of metaphor is very entertaining, especially when describing the sex scenes. It's refreshing to read her less than flattering descriptions of her encounters. Her metaphors are overdone, but for some reason, in this case, it works. It so mirrors Sally's state of mind. She becomes delusional and beyond obsessed to the point where everyone and everything becomes a non-entity. She severely neglects her children and life mate, she no longer works, lets her bills pile up, and lets the misery wash over her like a wave. It was really quite sad and heart wrenching to read. On one hand you feel sorry for her, but on the other you’re like, this is the spoils of dating and falling for a married man. He was never really yours to begin with. She becomes completely self-absorbed and selfish. There were quite a few times I wanted slap her or shake her and scream for her to WAKE UP! It was like she got to know everything about Clive to eventually find that she never really knew him at all.

I am usually very good at guessing the end before the reveal but this time I really didn't. And what a pleasure the reveal finally was. I'm not going to spoil it for you. Come Monday, she comes into school and I've successfully avoided spoilers so I can find out for myself who won. While talking to another friend, I hear Nadia yell "PORTUGAL WON!!!" and I yell at her, and her reply is "oh sorry, I didn't know you watched it."As mentioned above, make sure your social media is filled with happy and positive posts about your marriage. Do not make posts on your social media based on your feelings; resist the urge to share everything you feel. If you have time on your hands, you could design a flyer that explains everything that happened between her and your husband. Share it with her neighbors and everyone in her neighborhood. You could even extend it to her place of work if you’re able to get in. This mistress is probably walking around feeling sneaky like she’s in a secure relationship with a married man without his wife knowing. Playing with her mind would make her confused, guilty, and uncertain about what you know. I loved that the characters and their spouses were friends. This little tidbit led to the enjoyment of making Clive squirm when forced to attend functions with Siiiillllllyyyyy Saaalllllyyyy, as Sally refers to herself throughout the book. It is eerie to follow Sally’s slip from reality as we see how far she goes to justify her actions to remain in Clive’s life. As a wife and mother, I can fully relate to the desire for revenge; the good news is there are ways you can bring these vengeful fantasies to life without breaking the law. If you’re interested, sit tight and I’ll take you through 23 ways you can destroy your husband’s mistress. 1. Don’t get caught

I can't say I liked any of the characters, Sally is hard to like at all, selfish, obsessed, her behaviour and all consuming affair takes over everything. It is hard for the reader to witness the destruction to those around her, and Sally, whilst she is oblivious. I think this was smartly done in that these kind of situations you see the actions but not the insight of the mind or rational of the individual. Sally is both likeable and unlikeable in equal measures but far from that being distracting it makes you root for her in a way you don't normally root for a character like this. You go deep into her mind and find yourself wondering what you would do if you were her. Sally and Clive had an affair for five years. Sally can remember the night that Clive told her that the affair was over. She had arrived at the restaurant for dinner and she had barely one arm out of her sleeve when Clive informed her that he was giving his wife another chance. Things just go from bad to worse Sally writes Clive and than she becomes friends on facebook with Clive’s wife and daughter. As if that was not bad enough, Sally even goes to the coffee shop that Clive’s son works at. Soon, Sally is having lunch with Clive’s wife and daughter. She even learns that Clive’s daughter is expecting her first child. How do you stop someone, who is bent on destroying you? Tamar Cohen's debut is written with real style and some very dark humour. The story is that of a married woman who has recently been dumped by her married lover, she starts a journal on her therapist's advice that she should be "journalling her emotions" Sally's aside is "Did you know journal is a verb now?" They are likely to do the confrontation for you; some crazy friends may even send her abusive messages or do something else to make her feel bad. Most importantly, they will be there to defend and protect you if the need arises. 16. Put out an AdSally becomes totally detached from herself, and her family. Will not do "spoilers" but the ending has quite a twist. Another quote that foretold what was to come, "I only want whats mine. If I can't have whats mine, I'll take yours". Social media has become one of the most powerful communication tools, but it can also build or break a person’s image. If you know her profile name on any social media platforms, calling his mistress out could destroy the picture people have of her and ruin the relationships she has built. On the other hand, there is much bitterness and vitriol in the book which makes it unpleasant at times to read. The beginning was great, but the rest of the book felt a bit slow, as if the inevitable ending was being drug out for as long as possible. All in all, a worthwhile, but mixed reading experience. I think this would have been an excellent short story or novella, but was a bit too drawn out and incessantly depressing for novel length.