Experts in this study suggest that emotional forgiveness can lead to higher levels of forgetting than decisional forgiveness or no forgiveness. by Lysa TerKeurst | Jan 7, 2021 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetTo the girl whose hurt cannot be undone… Forgiving can seem impossible when the other person has not just affected a season of our life but affected us deeply every day since. Unchangeable wounds feel so very unforgivable. I agree; the person who hurt you should... If you’re still having trouble forgiving, especially when you can’t forget, there may be some good reasons to continue trying.

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Akhtar S, et al. (2016). Forgiveness therapy for the promotion of mental well-being: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Forgiving and forgetting” implies that you’ve moved on and no longer think about the offensive act. But forgiving an offense can be hard to do. emotional forgiveness: replacing negative emotions toward the person who has wronged you with positive ones such as sympathy, compassion, or empathy We don’t forget — we learn. Each experience teaches us something, even the painful ones. Forgetting means you’re forgoing the lesson and growth that can come from it. Instead, consider using it to better equip you for the future.Lichtenfeld S, et al. (2015). Forgive and forget: Differences between decisional and emotional forgiveness. decisional forgiveness: making a conscious decision to let go of hurt feelings, such as anger and resentment, putting them in the past, and moving forward free of the effects those feelings can bring When “forgetting” what has been forgiven is challenging, learning from the experience may help some people cope if they encounter that behavior in the future. A 2021 study also suggests that forgetting is easier with emotional forgiveness than decisional forgiveness or no forgiveness. A 2011 study suggests that forgiveness may give the person permission to continue the offense. In some cases, people who hurt others can manipulate the forgiveness process.

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Toussaint L, et al. (2016). Forgiveness, stress, and health: A 5-week dynamic parallel process study. by Lysa TerKeurst | Sep 28, 2020 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetDo you ever find yourself replaying and reliving the details of the deep hurt in your life? I understand. I’ve been there. And whether you’ve experienced pain through an event or a collection of hurt that built over time because someone wasn’t who they were... Long K, et al. (2020). Forgiveness of other and subsequent health and well-being in midlife: A longitudinal study on female nurses. Forgiving is critical for our emotional well-being. By refusing to forgive someone, you may be holding on to all the anger and pain that their actions might have created. This can take an emotional and physical toll. According to a 2016 study, practicing forgiveness might help reduce stress, anxiety, and the likelihood of depression. Forgiving strengthens relationships. All relationships have the potential to deepen and thrive because of what occurred. A 2011 study suggests that forgiving your partner may be crucial to maintaining a healthy romantic relationship. Forgiving may encourage you to become more committed to not allowing divisive and hurtful conflicts to occur in the future.Lichtenfeld S, et al. (2019). The influence of decisional and emotional forgiveness on attributions. Knowing how to forgive someone can be an essential life skill. It can save friendships, restore faith in our kids, and keep romantic relationships intact. by Lysa TerKeurst | Oct 14, 2020 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetDo you ever feel like relationships are amazing … until they’re not? I understand this frustration. Because the more deeply we are invested in someone, the more their choices affect us — emotionally, physically, mentally and financially. So how do we... Noreen S. (2021). Moving on or deciding to let go? A pathway exploring the relationship between emotional and decisional forgiveness and intentional forgetting.

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by Lysa TerKeurst | Dec 29, 2020 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't Forget“We know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.” Romans 8:28 (ESV) In 2015, The New York Times ran an article called “Googling for God.” In this article, author Seth Stephens-Davidowitz starts... by Lysa TerKeurst | Nov 6, 2020 | Blog, Forgiving What You Can't ForgetI’ve always wanted to invite you to my home, and now, I finally can. Although we can’t meet in person, I want to have you over (virtually) on November 17th for a conversation about my family’s personal journey with healing relationship heartbreak. In... McNulty J. (2011). The dark side of forgiveness: The tendency to forgive predicts continued psychological and physical aggression in marriage.