The best tip for lube is that there is no such thing as too much—especially when you’re first starting out. Silicone vs. water lube LET'S GET right to the point: if you're not using lube during sex, you're missing out—plain and simple. Why? Lube reduces friction, which, in turn, increases pleasure. Lube is great for all kinds of sex, but when it comes to anal sex, lube is absolutely a must-have. The anus doesn't self-lubricate, which makes it difficult and painful to insert anything—from a pinky finger to a penis—without some extra help.

Another type? Oil-based lubes (think coconut oil), which have a nice slippery texture but typically can't work with latex condoms (because they weaken the barrier). And then there are hybrid lubes—a mix of water- and silicone-based—which offer the best of both worlds and can typically be used with everything. Lube is a bottom’s best friend. Rectums can't secrete their own lubrication like vaginas do--lubes fulfill that function. With no shortage of choice out there, finding the right one for you—especially if you’re just starting out bottoming—is key to keeping things safe, friction-free and fun in the bedroom. This guide is to help get your head around what lube to use, how often to use it and what types you should definitely avoid. First off: lube means lube (and less definitely isn’t more) It's your choice what you do, but just be very careful. Inserting toys that far into you is not recommended and it really is testing limits of your anatomy. No matter how flexible your toy is and how much you prepare there is a risk of damaging the colon or bowel perforation, resulting in an emergency hospital admission.

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Once you have mastered dilating (using anal dilators sequentially to increase both the skin and muscle in diameter) and you feel ready for the real thing, plan ahead so that you have plenty of lube on hand (and elsewhere). Most tops just slap some lube on themselves and think that’s enough. Trust me, it’s not. Desensitizing butt lubes: these can dull or remove pain sensation altogether, which can prevent you from noticing potential injury. When you don’t know what your butt can and cannot handle, that’s when problems arise those with skin sensitivities might be irritated by propylene glycol, citric acid, and sodium benzoate And while there's no ONE lube that's best for anal sex, some are better than others. Silicone-based lubes are great for P-in-the-B action, since they're silky and long-lasting but can't be used on silicone toys, Boyajian explains. Water-based lubes, on the other hand, work well with silicone toys and are easy to clean off sheets and clothes, but they may be less luxurious feeling. Don't be afraid to reapply "as soon as it seems like it's drying out and there's more friction," Vrangalova adds. "Keep the lines of communication with the receptive partner open. Encourage them to let you know when they feel more is necessary."

This oil-based lube is made with coconut oil and organic silicone, so it will last a ridiculously long time without reapplication. Because it's oil-based, it's not suitable for use with latex or polyisoprene condoms, but you can use it with your silicone-based toys, which is a major win. Also important: There's also a water-based spin-off formula if you dig the idea but want something usable with latex condoms. Don't let the (kinda hilarious) name fool you: This stuff is A+ for female butt play, too. The formula inside the tub of "margarine" is a mix of coconut oil, silicone, and other vegetable oils and maintains a similar consistency to what you'd expect from a spreadable butter. Just like when finding a good lube for your vagina, it's best to avoid products with perfumes or scents, as these oft times will serve as irritants. As Babeland brand manager and sex educator Lisa Finn points out, the lining of your rectum is very good at absorbing stuff, so you don't want any unnecessary alcohol, flavorings, and artificial dyes. And while petrochemicals (like propylene glycol, polyethylene glycol, or petroleum) and preservatives (such as parabens, benzyl alcohol, or citric acid) aren't *totally* necessary to avoid, they can cause itching or irritation, especially if you have sensitive skin. Avoid anything "numbing" Luna Matatas is a sex and pleasure educator based in Toronto, Canada, who coined Peg the Patriarchy and hosts b-Vibe's The Plug podcast.

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FYI, i f a lube advertises itself as “numbing,” then you want to stay far away. Lube that makes butt stuff less painful sounds too good to be true...because it is. “Never, ever using a lubricant that numbs the anal sphincter,” Organic Loven founder Taylor Sparks previously told Cosmo . “This is the one place that you want to know what is painful so that you can stop whatever action you are taking, and not wait for the numbing lubricant/cream to wear off and realize there has been damage.” Numbing lubes with analgesics or desensitizing agents in them (like benzocaine) won’t let you know you’re overdoing it until after the fact, when the lube wears off, which is not ideal. Water-based lubricants are completely toy-friendly and a great start to butt play. They are condom-safe, so they are also a great way to go from toy to the real thing seamlessly. They usually also contain natural ingredients that many people love. i have been trying for months to get past sigmoid colon bend, i have never been successful yet. i don't know what the sensation should feel like and worried i will damage colon somehow by pushing too hard. lube isn't the issue as i have J-Lube and a lube shooter. Our normal estimated delivery time is between 24-48 hours NZ wide, although your delivery may take an Step 1: When thinking about your behind, every bottom (and top) should keep three areas in mind: the surrounding skin of the hole, the external sphincter (or the rim of the hole), and the internal sphincter (and beyond). Each of these areas needs to be coated properly with lube to ensure a fun time for both parties, while also lowering the risk for injury. The best way to make sure you’re lubed up entirely is to actually start with a dilator or another toy either before your top comes over or as part of foreplay. Start with putting a big pump or squirt of lube on your hole with your fingers (nails clipped!) or the toy itself. Then, insert a well-lubed finger or two or start with the smallest dilator just to coat that outer and inner rim (remember we want everything coated with lube).

If shower sex is your thing, you need this lube from Maude in your life. It's a paraben-free, silicone-based lubricant that you can use shower (and underwater) to keep things friction-free and extra slippery. Plus, the gorgeous bottle easily fits in with the rest of the products in your shower. A word of warning: natural oils (like coconut oil) and oil-based lubes may have the right consistency, but they can erode latex, which is why Sinclair says to avoid using coconut oil or almond oil when using condoms. If you're using sex toys, she also suggests avoiding silicone-based lubes with sex toys. "Using silicone lube on a silicone sex toy can cause bending, warping, and the ruin of a toy," says Sinclair "Use a high-quality, water-based lubricant instead." And along with one of these top-rated anal lubes, Matatas also suggests investing in a good lube applicator or lube shooter. "They help you get lube deeper into the rectum, which is great for making sure you're not just applying lube to the first couple of inches of the rectum if you're penetrating past that," she says. Finn agrees, pointing out that with lube shooters, "you don’t have to worry about more lube getting on your hands or sheets than where you actually want it to go." Another great hemp-based CBD lube: Quim Smooth Operator. Made with aloe vera, this soothing formula is latex-compatible and anti-fungal, and it's designed to increase blood flow and decrease inflammation and pain. Both anal play and vaginal play are A-OK with this stuff, which is a bonus.Why? Unlike your vagina, the anus does not self-lubricate—nope, not even a little bit. "No matter how turned on you may be, there is nothing to prevent unwanted friction unless you add lube," says Amy Boyajian, CEO and co-founder of sexual wellness boutique Wild Flower. "Not only does this help to prevent painful microtears, but it will make anal sex way more pleasurable."